[foul language warning] Get your head out of your ass! What the fuck is the matter with you? How could you say that? You should know what I mean. Can’t you keep your mouth shut? Adults on the autism spectrum have heard many hurtful words over the decades. While each of us is unique, many of us were picked last for sports because we were clumsy. Many of us never understood our peers’ social dynamics. Many of us talked when everyone else was silent, or talked louder when everyone else spoke. How many of us got an assignment from our boss at work that he or she was unable to explain? We should just know what he meant. How many of us got slapped by a girl for reading her social cues wrong? My best friend slapped me once, as I thought I was being lighthearted. We mask. We hide. We find ways to cope, while not quite fitting in. We failed to succeed at work because we couldn’t stand to deal with people. We used money, alcohol, drugs, to hide our depression and anxiety. It is long past time that families, friends, coworkers, acquaintances, support us, love us for who we are, and understand our differences and our needs.